Seriously, I almost titled this “New Mom Hacks.” Has anyone else been bombarded with “hacks” lately? Dinner hacks, life hacks, weight loss hacks… ahhhhh! It’s overtaken my brain. They’re tips. These are just tips, suggestions if you will, perhaps even ideas.
Before I get into the suggestions, I just want to share that last night’s dinner was fantastic. It was a great wine (I’m totally digging 7 Deadly Zins), broiled steak, and roast okra. I’m so mad at myself for not making more okra this summer; I love the stuff!
Oh, and yesterday’s workout and the play date at the park were lovely too. Gotta love this slightly cooler weather! I’ll have more to share on the new fitness routine soon, but I need to run through it a time or two first.
Okay okay, now moving onto those tips.
1. Sleep sleep sleep. This ecard sums up how I felt about this, but let me just speak from experience. Clean the minimum; sleep the maximum. You’ll be more patient with your screaming little one when you’re rested. The shower, kitchen, carpets, (the list goes on) can wait. Better yet, that’s what grandparents are for.
2. Read, Research, and Walk Away. There’s nothing wrong with doing a little light reading about babies and baby care, especially when you’re as clueless as I was. There’s also nothing wrong with reading the reviews on the stroller/crib/bottles you want for your little one. But keep it light. Then walk away. Common “advice” about sleep, feedings, etc. hasn’t worked well for my son. Frankly, reading too much into it created heightened expectations and increased stress. Do what you need to do, but then walk away from the baby forums!
3. It goes fast… except when it doesn’t. You finally made it to the grocery store. Your hair’s a mess, and you have spit-up on your shirt. You don’t care. All you want is to get in and out without your baby screaming. Two little old ladies dare stop you and say how quickly this time passes and that you should cherish every minute. Don’t. Try if you can, but don’t feel badly if you’re not high on life every minute of every day. As many moms will say, the days are long and the years are fast. Like, hyperdrive fast. Enjoy it as much as you can when you can, and don’t feel badly for those moments when you don’t. Little old ladies don’t remember it all so well anyway.
4. You probably don’t need it. There was a time before the Internet. There was also a time before baby superstores. Sure, you need stuff, and there are plenty of stores, websites, and blogs to highlight such “necessities.” But keep in mind that just because they make it, doesn’t mean you need it. I think the Internet has shown us more baby goodies out there than we could have ever dreamed, but when in doubt, you probably don’t need it.
5. Know that it gets better. Dear new dad standing in your kitchen nearly pouring your coffee on your pajamas instead of in your mug because you’re too darn tired to see straight: Dear new mom walking back and forth down your hallway 34 times bouncing and singing to your screaming baby while your dinner gets cold in the other room: Please know that it gets better. Some folks says 12 weeks, some 3 months, some 6 months, and some 18 years. Just know that it gets better that your baby loves you, even if he or she doesn’t know how to express it just yet.
- Mamas, got tips?
- Everyone else, what wine are you loving lately?